Family therapy

You can repair your relationship with your family through therapy.

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Are You Struggling To Solve Family Conflicts?

Do you feel like it’s impossible for your family to have an honest conversation without arguing? Is your family trying to deal with a difficult life transition? Are you worried that a stressful household environment is affecting your children’s wellbeing?

Maybe it seems like your children do not respect your ground rules. Perhaps you’ve been going through tumultuous changes as a family, and now, your household lacks a sense of stability. You might feel emotionally depleted and drained after expending so much of your energy trying to resolve family conflict.

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Fighting Can Make Your Home Life Fraught With Anxiety

When your family is arguing on a frequent basis, your home no longer feels like a place where you can simply rest and relax. Even when things are relatively calm, you’re anxiously anticipating the next dispute. Sometimes, you worry that you’re on the brink of a breakdown. 

Maybe you’re exhausted from bickering with your children. To make matters worse, you and your spouse might disagree on how to address issues with your kids. You might catch yourself hoping that this period of turmoil is “just a phase,” but you don’t know how much longer you can tolerate these circumstances.

You’re desperate to find solutions for your family, but dealing with conflicts may have left you stressed, irritable, and short-tempered. With the help of an empathetic therapist, your family can learn to communicate respectfully and love each other on a deeper level.

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Every Family Deals With Arguments

It’s very common for families to face periods of extended conflicts, especially when their children enter adolescence. Fighting within a family unit is unavoidable sometimes. But when ongoing conflicts continue for long periods of time without relief, it can lead to unhealthy family dynamics that leave everyone feeling hurt.

Why Do Dysfunctional Dynamics Develop?

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When tensions arise in a family, some members might opt for the path of least resistance and avoid addressing the issue head on. But in the long run, minimizing the concerns of a child, sibling or spouse can leave them feeling hurt and emotionally neglected. If these concerns aren’t resolved, the conflict will only get worse. Sometimes, this shifting dynamic isn’t always obvious, and problems brew under the surface until they can no longer be ignored.
Families go through life transitions together that can be emotionally charged for everyone in the household. Moving, losing a close relative, or even dealing with job loss have the potential to set off long-term conflicts.

Challenges can also arise when family members hold expectations that clash with reality. Children may feel let down when their parents hold strict rules about what social media they use. If their friends are allowed more privileges than they are, they may become jealous and rebel against their parents’ rules. The parents, meanwhile, may hold an idealized image of what a family “should” look like. When their family falls short of their expectations or goes against the status quo, they might feel disappointed and angry.

While a family might be able to deal with adolescent woes and minor disputes on its own, healing toxic relationships often requires professional guidance. With the support of a counselor, your family can begin working together to solve these problems and start implementing solutions to create a home environment that feels safe and comfortable for everyone.

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With Therapy, Your Family Can Heal Together

You might be worried that your family won’t be able to cooperate during therapy. Thankfully, at Mindful Mental Health Counseling & Wellness, every family member will be able to discuss what’s been troubling them while a compassionate therapist guides them through an open and honest dialogue. 

Meeting in a neutral space means that each participant will be heard and respected throughout the process. No one is compelled to open up right away; everyone can share information at their own comfort level. We are not going to point fingers—our goal is to empower each of you to work through the individual problems that are causing tension in the whole family. Throughout sessions, you will work together to improve your relationships and ensure that each person’s needs are met. Furthermore, your counselor can provide homework so that your family can work through sensitive issues privately in between sessions.

What To Expect In Family Therapy Sessions

After you schedule your first family counseling session, we will send you intake forms through a secure online portal. Parents will complete forms about their family information, informed consent, and privacy while children will only need to complete personal information forms. Every family member will be able to share the problems they have with the family’s current dynamics. This way, your therapist will gain a sense of each participant’s perspective before the first session.

In sessions, we will explore the issues your family is currently facing and reflect on where  problematic patterns may have begun. All participants will be able to freely discuss how these dysfunctional dynamics make them feel and what an “ideal family dynamic” would look like for them. 

Through counseling, children and teens can learn to talk with their parents without being confrontational and parents can begin communicating with their children with the goal of reducing conflict and fostering respect. Overall, you’ll work towards rebuilding positive relationships and becoming unified as a family.

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Developing Your Family Therapy Treatment Plan

Your therapist will draw on techniques from Structural Family Therapy and Internal Family Systems. SFT will help all of you explore what a ‘well-functioning family” means to you and work collaboratively to move beyond toxic behavioral patterns. Internal Family Systems allows each individual to address their own personal challenges within the context of the family

During sessions, your family will work on communication skills like using “I messages” to explain your feelings rather than placing blame on each other. For instance, instead of saying “You never do the dishes,” you will practice saying “I feel frustrated when you don’t do the dishes, like you leave all the responsibilities to me.” You’ll also practice speaking with reflective statements and acknowledging when difficult situations arise. 

With professional guidance, your family can learn to communicate lovingly, navigate disagreements with patience and kindness,  and honor each other’s needs through your actions.

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But You May Still Have Questions About Family Therapy…

What if a family member doesn’t want to participate?

In some cases, certain family members will be very open to seeking counseling, while others are reluctant to attend. During your first session, we recommend that only family members who have expressed a genuine willingness to participate and discuss their family dynamics attend. As time goes on, other family members might warm up to the idea and want to be included in future sessions.

Does every family member have to attend every session?

We will structure sessions in a way that will best help you reach your goals as a family. Every family is unique, and depending on your family’s specific needs, we may not require the whole family unit to be present at every session. We might recommend individual sessions for some family members if it would be beneficial. Alternatively, we may bring two or three family members together for sessions if they need additional time to work through specific issues. 

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What if a family member feels like they are being ignored during sessions?

At our practice, we make every effort to ensure that each family member has a chance to voice their concerns in therapy. However, if any family member feels that they don’t have a voice  during sessions, we will take time to validate their emotions and discuss what steps we can take to ensure they feel comfortable and valued in future sessions. We will also explore the possibility that some family members experienced the same dynamic in their household and consider these details moving forward.

Your Family Can Experience Genuine Unity

If you’re ready to improve your relationships within your family through therapy, you can schedule a free 15-minute phone consultation by emailing us. When you’re ready to book your first session, you can schedule an appointment through our contact page.

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